In The Four Loves, CS Lewis says “few modern people think Friendship a love comparable [to Eros or Affection] or even a love at all. Without Eros none of us would have been begotten and without Affection none of us would have been reared; but we can live and breed without Friendship.”
In an age where we “friend” people on Facebook that we don’t even know, it’s refreshing to remember that there is something real and true about those few relationships that rise to the level of Friendship. According to Lewis (via Emerson), in Friendship, “Do you love me? means Do you see the same truth? — Or at least, ‘Do you care about the same truth?’ The man who agrees with us that some question, little regarded by others, is of great importance can be our Friend. He need not agree with us about the answer.”
When I met Kate eight or nine years ago, I was certain that she would be a real Friend. I told her soon-to-be husband, Philip, that I absolutely loved her and he just HAD to marry her. There are many, many things that I love about Kate, but they can all be summed up in that we care about the same questions. I’ve learned more about motherhood, friendship, hospitality, and a host of other things through my conversations with Kate than I have from just about anyone else. She’s amazing, y’all.
She also has a pretty wonderful family. Philip is quite the musician and writer– which is super conducive to our Friendship because it means Kate and I can hang out while Michael and Philip do their music thing. And their kids constantly crack me up– watching Marielle and Eve mature over the past few years gives me a lot of hope that Jeremiah will one day want to have a conversation with me.
I was really excited to take some photos of their family recently. As I edited them later, I couldn’t help but smile back at their beautiful faces. I’m delighted to share a few of those photos with you- enjoy!